There are many relationship hacks, relationship tips flying around. It's wise to be careful what you take in.
In this post I will be sharing 10 Relationship Hacks
Happy reading.
In your relationship here is my number 1.
1. Don't compare. It is important for couples or couples to be not to compare their partner to someone else. It hurts a lot.
2. Don’t go to bed angry. It always amazes me how something minor can turn into something big! We don’t argue about the important things, but we sure can get steamed up over the small stuff. These disagreements can go downhill when we we’re tired or hungry. Early in our marriage we created a tradition where we talk and discuss anything that could be bothering us. It gave us time to stay up into the wee hours trashing something out until we find our way through it. Then we make up, apologize and go to sleep.
This may look difficult if you find it difficult to forgive and let go of little things. But with the help of God you can change gradually.
You need to get to a point where you forgive your partner ahead. I call it forgive in advance. That is the easy way to go to bed without hurts. Because if you don't forgive or make excuses for your partner in advance you may not be able to forgive truely when they apprologize.
3. Don’t give up on the important things. Most frequently, couples argue about one or more of these —food, kids, money, sex, in-laws and housework. On many occasion my hubby and I often disagreed, but when it is something that matters to us we keep discussing it till we find a good ground. It may take days or weeks but we keep going back to that issue. When we had a disagreement, we didn’t give up on each other. It might take us weeks to find a compromise but we persisted.
4. Don't ever try to change him or her. Everyone had a different background, likes and dislikes. Accept them for who they are. Never go into relationship with the mind of changing him or her. Its only God that has that ability. Love them for who they are.
5. Don’t take offense. Do not take offence. And if you do, be quick to forgive. Just because your partner does something that’s insensitive, thoughtless or selfish, it’s not necessary to take offense. We can, but we don’t have to. Most of the time, we do things that upset our loved one without the intent to hurt or frustrate them. Cut each other some slack! And always work together as a team. Remember to forgive in Advance.
6. Don't Allow Third Party
Your marriage is for you and your spouse. Do not allow in-law, friends to influence your discission. Be close to your spouse and be open to each other instead of letting someone else give you wrong advice.
The easy way to not allowing third party is to have strong bond and communicate often. When you tell each other things as it happens it will be quite difficult for anyone come in between.
7. Don’t take your partner for granted. Over the course of your relationship, there are months at a time when family or work demand our complete time and attention. During those periods still try to create time for each other. During those times, when you feel neglected, don’t get angry at your loved one. Instead, let them know how much you miss them. When you speak it makes things easier. Than when you just keep it to yourself.
8. Do celebrate the important stuff. It is important to celebrate each other as often as possible. What’s important in your relationship? For me, it was our family (we both loved having kids), our love, and our shared sense of purpose and meaning. Celebrate your love, your birthday, anniversary. Surprise each other even when there isn't a special event after all everyday is special and you only get to see it once. Send her gifts even when it isn't her birthday. Visit her at work. Give her money for shopping unexpectedly. Buy him gifts. celebrate every wins, surprise him with a call or a message to affirm your love or reassure him that you are proud of him. Make his best meals. And try not to forget his or her special dates.
9. Do accept your partner for who she is. Love your partner for who they are, not for who you think they could become. That doesn’t mean that you have to like everything about them!
I am sure you have the phrase "Opposites attract" and then spend the next 20 years trying to make their partner into a mirror image of themselves. Your loved one can change their behavior, with much difficulty, if they want to change. But we can’t change our basic personality.
10. Communication is key. Call each other as often and possible. Speak, talk and have fun.
Couples that chat, talk through out the day won't mostly have martial issues.
I would love to hear form you.
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