Who Should I Marry?
By Victoria Yoosuff
Marriage is a union between a mature man and a mature woman. It is ordained by God Almighty. It is not a union between the teenagers or children. It is for those who know that they are mature and can take the responsibility of another adult in their life, space, and in their time.
It is very key to go with a manual of any product to use it effectively. To understand its use and functions you need the manual. The Manual of a product tells you so much about the functions, responsibility the button to press for a particular thing t happen. In the same vein, you need the Bible which is our Manual to successful marriage. It contains many story guidelines on how to succeed in your marital pursuit. It also tells us how many failed and many others succeeded in their marriage.
It's important to know what is expected from the man and woman before going into marriage. It is also great for you to know how to choose a life partner.
Some people see marriage as necessary evil. It’s the most activity they have to carry out, because they have finished their higher education and now have a good job. They feel the next thing is for them to marry.
Some others go into marriage as a contract. If it works they stay, but if it doesn't then walk away.
Marriage should not be seen as an escape route from all your problems in life. Marriage can not solve your problem. If you are not happy as a single marriage can not complete you. Marriage is going to amplify what you already carry. If you were dirty before you will still be dirty after marriage. If you were fulfilled and confident about yourself, your confidence would likely increase.
Please note marriage is not going to make you complete or happy. If you are not complete in yourself as single it is not marriage that will complete you.
Your single years is not just a waiting time. It is a time to prepare yourself, equip yourself in all ways possible. You need to be ready for the task ahead. To be a lover to a total stranger is not an easy task. To submit cook for your family two or three times a day is no joke.
I met Joy some years ago in the university. She was planning of getting married and I asked her some questions about marriage what was her view. What her goals were and what they have planned to achieve? I was dazed and very disappointed by her reply. She said she plans of marrying her school sweetheart.
They had not made plans of where they will leave, what their goals were. She said all that will take care of itself after we get married in three months.
I could not hold myself, I had already screamed before I knew it. Their plan was to get married soon after they graduated without jobs, skills, no investment in place.
They had not define their roles expectations and boundaries. They made no plans for their finance. We had a long talk that day and the next and she later told me she had to cancel plans to marry after school. They now agreed to get a job and save for some months before their wedding.
You cannot marry and have a happy home without money. Without a regular inflow of cash, you cannot have a successful home. One or both parties must be working.
Marriage doesn’t guarantee happiness, because many ladies feel when I just get married I will be happy.
Marriage in itself would not make you happen. Marriage cannot make you fulfilled. If you want to happy look for happiness outside marriage. You should create your happiness. This means that you have other things that should make you happy. The one and surest way to be happy and remain happy is God. Many things like food, money, sex, drugs, fame, promotion, children, spouse, and many more can make you happy for a while. But only God can give you lasting joy and happiness. Therefore if you are looking for love find God. Only God can help you to be the right person and help you choose right.
Please note is very important that you create your happiness. You own it to yourself to be happy. No man or woman can guaranty you of your happiness. After you, have God. You have to do what makes God and you happy. If you wait for your spouse, you may wait for a long time.
Here are a few tips:
1. RESPECT
Respect is very important in any relationship. Therefore never marry anyone who you cannot respect. Because
"Respect" is reciprocal!! I love to say if you respect yourself, you will be respected.
Have self-worth! Don't belittle yourself. Have a standard of who you want and what you stand for. What you will accept and what you would not. Respect yourself enough to know who should be among your friends. Any man who requires you to sleep with him before marriage isn't for you. Wait for your man. Wait for that man who will treat you as his Queen.
Don't manage a guy who will treat you like garbage.
2. EDUCATION: It is very important to have a teachable heart.
3. PREPARE
"Passionately prepare." Someone once said to me "I don't need to read I know all about marriage." And I had a good laugh because it's a known fact that "if you don't, plan you have planned to fail. "
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Marriage is a lifetime journey that you have to prepare well for. Read books, attend seminars. Ask questions. Be determined you want to know what marriage is about. Have a teachable heart and be humble enough to learn at every point in time. Never assume you know it all. I still read about marriage even though I've been married for many years.
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I hope you learned something new today.
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Also Read
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The Art of Affirmation by Victoria Yoosuff
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Good write-up. More grease to your elbow.
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DeleteGreat start! Keep up the good work and don't look back. I see you in high places. Consistency is the key! Well done Victotia.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much, it means a lot to me.
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