10 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship

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Any relationship can become boring if parties involved are not consciously working on their relationship. A relationship can be likened to a garden that requires tending and attention. When the gardener stays away from his duties, wheat will grow that the gardener won't be able to go it. 

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Practical Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship

1. Date your spouse. Go out on dates. Never stop dating your spouse. Set days aside when you go on dates. Dating isn't only for singles or youths alone. To spice up your marriage you have to date each other. Have fun while picking the restaurant, resort center or dress to wear.

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2. Buy gifts. Remember one of the love languages is giving or receiving of gifts. These gifts doesn't have to be very expensive but let convey that love you have for your spouse. Be romantic while at it. 

3. Reinvent yourself. Do not remain on the same level for too long. Look for new ways to build yourself. Invest in yourself. Have goals and run after them. Make sure you consider doing new things for your relationship that make it feel new. Always dress smartly, and nearly.

4. Be open. Sincerity house build marriage. Many people still have a lot of hidden things they have not told their spouse. For instance some have not told their spouse how much they are paid as salary. 

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5. Talk. Communication is the bloodline of any relationship. You need speak well with your spouse and also speak well about your spouse. Build that cordial relationship where you can talk about anything and everything. Let your spouse be comfortable to call you. Let them that confidence of speaking with you. In my book 'Steps to Martial Bliss' I mentioned that communication is important and the manner of speaking is more important than the message we want to pass. Your tone is important so as not to convey the wrong message.

6. Build Trust. Truth is a scarce commodity in our era, however, we need to cultivate the habit of honesty. Let your words be backed up with accurate actions. Don't make empty promises.

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7. Your Spouse needs matters. The needs of your spouse is valid and important. Ask about their needs be it emotional needs or sexual needs. Discuss this needs and try your best to meet it the way he or she requires.

8. Spend quality time together. As a couple who wants to spice up your relationship you need to spend quality time together. Make this period fun.

9. Create fun ritual. As a couple set aside unique time, days or even months to carry out some special rituals for instance, walking every Friday evening. Naked day or naked night. Visiting in-laws on Sundays. Kissing before living the house every morning.

10. Seek knowledge. Whenever you are confused, seek counsel from qualified counsellor and God's word. Do not assume you know it all or you are always right and your spouse is always wrong. Humble yourself enough to seek knowledge. Read books on relationship and marriage.

I would love to hear from you in the comments section, if you have more tips to spice up your relationship.

Written by Victoria Yoosuff

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HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL

HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL 

After reading the article I wrote that says 5 SIGNS THAT SOMEONE IS NOT INTO YOU a week ago, a concerned lady sent me a message seeking for counseling.

She told me that her guy loves her, gives her attention, has time for her, cares about her, communicates well with her and gives her lots of gifts and all of that but she's afraid if the love is real.

Consequently, she chatted me up asking me how she would know that the love is real.

I told her that I'm going to write on it so that other people can also benefit from it. In this article, you will learn how to know if the love is real or not.

When someone loves you, you know and you will feel it. There will be evidences to attest to it.

Below are some of the evidences...

ATTENTION 

When someone loves you, he or she will give you attention. We give attention to the things that we love. 

CARE

When someone loves you, they will care about your well-being. Anyone that doesn't care about your welfare does not love you. 

 COMMUNICATION 

When someone loves you, they will communicate often with you as much as possible. Hearing the voice of whom you love is a delight. 

GIVING 

The natural outflow of love is giving. When someone loves you, they will give. It doesn't necessarily has to be money but there will be giving. 

SPENDING TIME TOGETHER 

 PATIENCE

When someone loves you, they will patient with you. They will be patient with in your weaknesses, down time, etc. 

PROTECTION

When someone loves you, they will try to protect you from harm, they will ensure that you are safe. 

KINDNESS

When someone loves you, they will be kind to you. Love is kind. Harshness is a sign of hatred, resentment or anger not a sign of love. 

VULNERABILITY

When someone loves you, they will vulnerable to you. They will loose their guard, put down their defence, they will dismantle the barricade and they will show you the weak side of them hoping you don't hurt them.

SUPPORT

When someone loves you, they will support you in whatever capacity they can. They will support your dreams and aspirations, they will support you financially, spiritually, emotionally and otherwise.

INVESTMENT

When someone loves you, they will invest in you to make you better than they met you mentally, emotionally, economically etc. Love builds up.

So these are some of the signs that shows someone loves you.

How Do You Know That The Love Is Real?

Give It Time

I read something from Reno Omokri recently that made a lot of sense to me. In fact, it put what I want to say in perfect perspective for me.

He says, "No mask can be worn forever. Give people time. Their mask will fall. Until then, don't marry or do business with them. Stay loving, but be alert."

You cannot cover pregnancy forever, with time it will be revealed for all to see.

So, give the person time. He says he loves you with all his heart, you are his morning star, sunshine, sugar in the tea, butter in the bread and his one and only woman, there's no problem. Give it time.

When he asks for sex and you tell him no sex until marriage, will he still continue to love?

When you find yourself in a very difficult situation, maybe you are critically ill, will he still continue to love?

She says she loves you, you are her world and you mean everything to her. Without you she cannot live nor survive. You are her oxygen and life-force. There is no problem. Give it time.

When you loose your job or suffer a major blow in your business, will she still love?

When you are broke and unable to provide for her financial needs, will she still love or disappear with another guy?

Don't rush things. Give it time. Time is a revealer. Time will reveal if the love is real or not, with time you will come to know if the person is saying the truth or lying. Love perseveres and love is long-suffering. Stay loving, but be alert. 

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